Parent Handbook

GUIDANCE and BEHAVIOUR

The goal of a behaviour management policy is to assist children in learning self-mastery, gain confidence and develop social sensitivity in their interactions with others. We encourage children to talk through their conflicts with peers and demonstrate how it is possible to get their needs met while still respecting the boundaries of others. Through positive role-modeling, storytelling, setting firm limits and demonstrating clear expectations, children can learn how to make appropriate, safe choices and make compromises to reach mutual social goals. This process takes a long time for a child to internalize and there are many bumps along the road which often reveal that what makes children happy in the short-term, doesn’t always prepare them to be courageous, empathetic, engaged adults. In the early years, firm consistency is key.

Young children need to be guided through many experiences in this process to gradually learn to be more independent in this area as he or she matures. If a child appears to be unable to cope with a situation, the teachers will intervene and guide the problem through to resolution, emphasizing perspective-taking and empathy. The teachers will role-model and reinforce the appropriate language for the desired social outcomes.

School should be a place for positive experiences for all, and while the world does not always cooperate with what a child may want, he or she must learn to manage it in a positive way. No child will be permitted to hurt him or herself, hurt others or damage property/the environment in any way, at any time. In the event that a child makes a choice to do so, the teachers will employ strategies such as:

- Setting clear, defined limits which are consistently and positively reinforced
- Redirection of a child’s focus
- Helping the child express feelings verbally or through creative expression
- Offering appropriate alternative choices
- Role-modelling problem-solving skills out loud and demonstrating resolution through action
- Using logical and reasonable natural consequences to help the child understand causality
- Demonstrate appropriate words and actions to ‘fix’ hurt feelings

At no time will a child be subjected to:

- Pushing, spanking or any other form or corporal punishment
- Belittling treatment which would humiliate the child
- As a form of punishment,be confined, physically restrained of kept without adult supervision, apart from other children
- As a form of punishment be deprived of meals, snack, rest or the use of the toilet

We work hard to build an ongoing dialogue with parents in all matters of their child’s development and education. Throughout the process, we work collaboratively to discover possible issues which may have been overlooked and uncover the underlying causes or, as needed, make referrals to outside support and intervention.

Families need to be on-board in forming a collaborative parent-school model for positive intervention and growth. Parents are consulted when a child is struggling with behavioral responsibility at any given level, and a plan to work with boundaries at home and at school will be put in place together. In the case that a child is unable to develop the self-regulation and responsibility required to participate in our school program, parents may be asked to keep their child at home to take the time to work through behavioral expectations while keeping other students safe. If a child were unable to acquire those skills within a reasonable period, he or she may be asked to seek an alternative program where an environmental change may help break a negatively entrenched behavioural cycle. Every child’s developmental needs are unique and must be managed in an individual capacity with patience and perseverance.Our goal is to set children up for success on all levels of interaction at school. Using positive guidance and consistency to develop inner discipline, we seek to encourage the personal growth of children who are self aware and socially responsible; who have an awareness of personal values and who are able to move through their life experiences with confidence, compassion and integrity.

Children may not always be happy with feedback and limits, however, social boundaries are a necessary part of living in a healthy way within society and among others.  Our teachers are continually working towards guiding the students towards reaching the goals of self-control and self-discipline with self-esteem intact.  Please feel free to talk with us if you have any questions or concerns regarding our approach to guidance and behaviour management.